Category Archives: Living Simply

Going off Social Media

Lately, I’ve been feeling down. I’m sad, frustrated, upset, and immobilized.  The pandemic, quarantine, loss of people, friends, and family and the social things that kept my small tiny little life happy has really gotten to me.  The politics and obvious blatant racism and pain in the world. Just pain everywhere.  It’s awful and horrible. 

I am on Instagram and Facebook. I have a Twitter account that I don’t really use but periodically get pulled to when I click on something that brings me to it.  I watch YouTube and I do not even know what qualifies as social media anymore because just being on my computer or phone brings up notifications that pull me away from what I want to do and draws me down into a rabbit hole.

I am reading a book called, “Digital Minimalism” by Cal Newport.  I loved his book, “Deep Work” and I’m enjoying this book.  It’s about our digital life and how we no longer have control over our actions, thoughts, uses.  He’s much more eloquent than I am and I’m probably saying it wrong.  But I realize that I’m letting social media control my moods – I get sad, upset, jealous/envious, and angry after I check Insta/FB to see what’s going on.  I know I should know better than to feel this way when I see friends post certain things.  I know I should be better at putting my phone down, shutting my computer off, and doing the things that really matter.  I’ve often thought of deactivating my accounts and I still haven’t done it.

But some things have got to change. I am tired of this unmotivated, sad, angry feeling that has consumed me recently.

I can’t go off completely. I run the Facebook group for my quilt guild. I am also technically in charge of the guild’s Instagram account and by technically, it’s because I created the account and I monitor it. But since Covid, I’ve not really posted anything on it. I also run our zoom weekly quilting bee on Sundays to help keep the guild connected to each other.  I moved the apps on my phone to another page further away from my home screen that is slightly more difficult for me to get to.  That way it’s more of a conscious choice to get to it.  I may apply more rules to myself but so far, I’ve decreased my contact on social media and taking back more of my time and becoming more positive.

As part of my evening ritual, I am not allowed to check Facebook or Instagram after 7pm. I just started doing this in the last couple of weeks and my sleep has improved dramatically.  My fit bit broke a recently so I can’t give you real numbers but in terms of feeling, I’m waking up much better each day more regularly than before. 

~always,

Melanie

Day 46, What I miss most …

#1 – hanging out with friends and our craft days. Generally we have knit nights on Thursday nights. And every few weeks we do a craft Saturday or a craft Friday. We are doing zoom to meet virtually but it is just not the same.

#2 – I miss my retreats. There is something about taking all my quilty stuff and working on just quilts for 3 or 5 days.  I get so much done.

#3 – Popping over to the store – my LQS for some fabric, my LYS for some yarn, and even my LNS to hang out and stitch with my stitchy ladies. And, even Joann’s or CVS or Petco for that one thing that I need.  The hubby is our point person when going out in public and those things I needed before – well, I don’t need them so much anymore.

#4 – Making plans. It’s hard to make plans for the future because we don’t know what it will bring. How life will be and how we will need to adjust when we are allowed to go out again. International travel is definitely not in the books this year but what about domestic? I’m itching to go camping which we haven’t done in YEARS but for some reason I am feeling the call to do.  Anyone else?

#5 – Food, eating out, going out to eat with friends and chatting about our lives

and I’m sure there are more… but these are just the top 5 that come to mind.

💕

Melanie

Saturday Musings and another bag class

This weekend is a chock full of classes.  This month is a chock full of classes.  First a few months ago I signed up for my quilt guild’s September workshop on embellishments.  I signed up soon after the quilt show and was highly motivated to take classes on any hand work I could get my hands on.  That class is tomorrow and I’m still very excited to take it, I just wish I didn’t have two classes this weekend.

The second class is the monthly bag class I’ve been taking.  When I took the August bag class the September class had not yet been scheduled but that soon changed.  My calendar on my bujo is Sunday through Saturday so when the class was scheduled for 9/9, I immediately signed up.  I didn’t realize that my other class was the following Sunday.  Oh well.  Even if I had known, I would have signed up for the bag class anyway.  I’m really enjoying the classes.  I just wish I had time to do more bags outside of the class to fully learn the techniques.

And I have a third class scheduled for next Saturday, the 16th.  I can’t remember exactly what I signed up for but I believe it’s on the same lines as hand work and embellishments.  These are the things that interest me lately and the techniques I want to learn, practice and develop.

On a side note, my secret project is bound and the next step is to label and wash it.  I’ll add that to my to do list for this coming week.  Since it’s a secret I can’t post pictures until some future date.  Sorry!

~Happy Saturday Stitching!

~Melanie

Getting my sewjo back… fixing the space where it all happens

Earlier this year, we got rid of our office space (outside of the home) and opted to save money and move everyone virtual.  For me, that meant my sewing room/office became my full-time office.  And part time sewing room.  While I love working from home, every time the weekend and evenings came, I would stay out of this space.  That meant that my happy place was no longer my happy place and I stayed away from that room whenever I was not working.  I decided things weren’t working.  I want to sew again but I was cramped and I had no room to pull things out and craft. I needed a change and I needed to revamp my space so it would once again be a place of joy.

Here’s what it looked like before:

 

It’s so cluttered and full of stuff.  A couple of weekends ago the hubby promised to help move out the big entertainment center and move another piece of heavy furniture in its place.  Since he agreed to do that I didn’t see any harm in just changing the whole room around.  To help with the change, I moved everything out.

And here’s my room rearranged:

 

It’s still a work in progress.  There is a bunch of stuff cluttered around that I need to organize better and I’ve still got a lot of stuff waiting to be put away in my living room.  But I also got rid of a lot of stuff (thrown away, to be sold, or to be donated).  But I’m much happier now with it the way it is.  And I hope as I continue to craft and work in here I will find other ways to make it better.

~happy crafting!

~Melanie

Value Driven Life

The vision of how I see my life in 10 years can change over time as I get older, gain experience, learn things about people and myself.  But my values generally stay the same.  Some years I focus on particular areas while other years I focus on different areas.  I used to have my values on an index card lying around somewhere for me to see every day.  At some point, I stopped that practice. When I started my first bullet journal last June, I revisited my values and dedicated a page to them.  And when I moved to my current bullet journal I continued this practice.  The words changed a little bit but the overarching themes remain the same. Here they are in no particular order:

Health

Family

Creativity

Experiences

Simple Living

As I translate my vision from a dream in my head onto paper (or computer screen), my values are central to this vision.

~Melanie

 

a blogger award…

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Before I left on vacation I was nominated for a blogger aware by Life as I Interpret It.  Thank you so much!  I’m so grateful for this nomination.  Check out the blog, I enjoy the honesty of the posts as she writes about her financial choices, making positive choices, making bread, etc.  It’s so interesting to read and relate to.  Like me, she’s on vacation right now so she isn’t posting as often as she normally does.  Check out her older posts until she gets back and returns to posting regularly.

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I have pasted the award photo and the rules directly from Life’s post. Here they are:

The Rules:

*Thank the person who nominated you, and give a link to his/her blog.

*List the rules.

*Display  the image of the award on your post.

*List seven facts about yourself.

*Nominate (up to) 15 bloggers for this award, and notify them to let them know you have nominated them.

Seven Facts About Me:

  1. I’m originally from Northern California.  I was born and raised in the Bay Area and moved to LA to attend UCLA for college.  I met my husband and never left.
  2. I love to plan and implement plans.  Back in the day I carried those huge Franklin paper planners.  then switched to a Palm.  I use a CRM now for work stuff but nothing beats a printed calendar and a project plan.  I’m currently using a bullet journal for non-work/quilty/ family stuff.  I just started and I’m loving it.  It’s only been a month so I keep changing my layouts and stuff from week to week.
  3. My favorite color is purple.
  4. I’m writing this in Myrtle Beach.
  5. I’m trying to be healthier this year and develop healthy habits.
  6. One of my goals this year was to read 12 books because I felt like I stopped reading and I used to love to read.  I met that goal ridiculously early in the year and now I read/listen to books all the time.  I’m generally reading 2 at the same time – one business related and one fiction.  I just finished “A Tale for the Time Being” by Ruth Ozeki and I really enjoyed it.  For business, I’m reading “Joy, Inc.” by Richard Sheridan.
  7. I strive to be a better leader, a better manager, a better boss.  I own my own business with 8 employees and I strive to create a company where we can have fun while helping others.  That’s a simple statement that doesn’t completely represent what I want but I don’t have the time right now to go into full detail.  Maybe I will one day.

Here are my nominees at no particular order (There are many more bloggers to list here; I sure will acknowledge them at another time):

  1. DesertSky Quilting – Primarily quilty related.  Susan is very encouraging and provides helpful information.
  2. From My Carolina Home – Quilting, gardening.  Every once in awhile she’ll post tutorials that are great.  I enjoy reading about long arming.
  3. Quilting for the rest of us – Quilting, Craftsy class reviews, Podcaster.  I really enjoy Sandy’s podcasts and the blog supplements it.
  4. Katy Quilts – Another quilter I enjoy keeping up with and checking out her projects.
  5. Minimalist Next Door – A couple of minimalists documenting their journey.  Really interesting stuff.

Thanks everyone:)

Living Simply Edition #17 – Living Room #1

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Just a quick update on the status of living room #1.  I spent some time over the weekend going through the room and figuring out what can go and what can stay.  I know it doesn’t look like much because this is the living room that I spend my quilty time in.  But I wanted to go through all those books and get rid of the little stuff that I could get rid of.

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The left bookshelf is mine and the kids.  I already pulled out the business books and took those over to the office to share with the staff.  The right bookshelf houses the books I retrieved from my parent’s library and the hubby’s stuff.  I spent my time on the left bookshelf since I’m not ready to get rid of those books on the right and what isn’t mine is the hubby’s.  Anyway, inside the cabinet at the bottom of the shelf was filled with a bunch of books too.  The bottom of the middle curio is also filled with books.  I got rid of the books on the top shelf and went through the remaining books.  I divided them into 4 categories:

  1. books I loved and will not/could not get rid of
  2. books my kids loved and I could not get rid of
  3. books I read and I’m not sure I loved so want to reread them to see if I could get rid of them
  4. books I haven’t yet read (usually the kids books that they recommended I read) and need to read.

I removed the books that I decided should go to a different home.  So now, the shelves you see are still full of books but the bottom cabinet on the left bookshelf is only half filled and the cabinet at the bottom of the curio is completely empty.  You can’t tell yet but we’ll be able to tell by the significant decrease of boxes of books. 🙂

I also went through the sewing box that is at the top of the curio.  I got it on sale somewhere and I liked how it looked so I bought it.  It’s been mostly empty but I opened it because I had the uneasy feeling that the hubby was hiding stuff in there.  I was right.  I threw away everything inside.  Nothing important, just an old tea set that the girl played with when she was 6 or 7.  I was keeping it because it reminded me of her at that age and the tea set was porcelain and so cute.  I will always have those memories.

 

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I went through the basket, moved the two irons back to my crafty room.  I can’t decide which iron I like best and the hubby just pulls whichever one he finds when he wants to iron.  I threw stuff in the basket that needed to be thrown away and moved other things into the boy’s room that should not have been in the basket in the first place.  I stuck the remaining Christmas gifts that have not yet been delivered (the recipients are hard to pin down to give these to them) in the basket.

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The boy’s backpack went to his room and then I went through this curio.  I got rid of the lion stuffed animal peeking at the top of the curio.  I found it in one of the boxes I was unpacking and I’m not sure how it ended up there.  I believe, at that time, I couldn’t get rid of it.  Now I could.  There wan’t much left inside the curio to get rid of.  It contains my grandma’s old china set that my mom gifted to me.  Below at the bottom is all our old piano books and music sheets.  I kept them all for now but maybe next week I’ll go through them.  I believe there are a lot that are incomplete as the pages have gone missing.

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The water bottles got moved into a cooler outside.  The piano was cleared of all that stuff lying on top of it.  I went through the bowl that the hubby empties his pockets into and threw away all the receipts I found there.  I don’t know why he keeps the receipts.  I also went through our mug shelves.  I got rid of some stuff but not much.  This is one of our collections and I’m not ready to start downsizing these.  I am not going to be buying mugs anymore.  I used to buy a mug or two every place we visited but we’re traveling more than we used to and our friends are so generous they have started to get us mugs too.  So, I have no place to put them anymore.

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I forgot to go through the coat rack.  I must do that this coming weekend!

While it doesn’t seem like I did much, I’m feeling better about getting rid of stuff.  There are some things I was able to put in the get rid of bin that was harder for me to get rid of before.  I’m glad that I’m allowing myself not to get rid of everything but to go through each section multiple times.  This way, it’s okay to save the question of keeping or getting rid of for a later time.  By the way, I say get rid of but if the item can still be used again, the hubby donates it somewhere.

I’ve read and listened to people suggestions of getting rid of as much as possible fast.  That helps you see progress right away and motivates you to keep getting rid of stuff.  I like this idea but I also get stressed about getting rid of something that I may potentially want later.  For example, I found a little elephant miniature piece whose trunk broke off.  I was sad.  I remembered buying the piece and it looks cute.  I don’t want to get rid of it.  But it’s broken.  But a little bit of superglue and it looks brand new.  But we don’t have super glue right now so we’ll need to get some.  Well, I told the hubby that he has a week to do it.  If it isn’t fixed in a week, I’m throwing it away!  It feels nice to be able to let go of feeling like I have to make a decision now.  So, I just got rid of the things that I felt was easy to get rid of.  And like I said, something that seemed hard to get rid of a few months ago was very easy to get rid of now (the lion stuffed animal).

Have a great day everyone!

~Melanie

Living Simply Edition #16

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I haven’t done one of these in a long time.  Life was busy and it seemed any time I was able to come up and breathe, I spent it playing with fabric and other things.  I want to get this on the schedule again but I’m not sure where to start.  So, as with everything I do when I’m stuck, I figure out a project plan.

  • Living Room #1 (where my quilt frame is)
  • Living Room #2
  • Dining Room
  • Spare Closet (in front of the hubby’s lair) and has become the home of things that I don’t know what to do with
  • Laundry Room
  • Bathroom #2
  • Bar area
  • Kitchen
  • Pantry
  • Linen Closet
  • Bedroom
  • Bathroom #1
  • Garage

So my goal is to focus on 1 area each month.  That will mean we’ll get through each area in 13 months.  It’s a constant thing.  I specifically didn’t include the hubby’s lair (because that’s his and he would not appreciate me going in there to declutter).  I also didn’t include the girl’s room or the boy’s room.  They are old enough to go through their stuff.  Of course, if they want my help I’m sure they will ask me for it.

For March, I’ll be working on Living Room #1.

Here is what it looks like before I start working on it:

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Have a great day everyone!

~Melanie

Happy New Year! ?

So I posted my blog post earlier today with the intention to work on Tell It To The Stars!  I’m really done with this quilt and I just needed to get it finished.  The piecing was great!  But the quilting was far from it.  I had trouble with the machine. I had trouble with the frame.  I had trouble all the way around.  I should change the name of the quilt to Trouble!  Anyway, I haven’t been quilting on it because I just about hated looking at it.  But because it sits in my living room I had to look at it every day.  Every time I looked at it I would just cringe.  So this morning I told myself to forget about it, just get ‘er done and then I can at least send my machine off to get it professionally cleaned and serviced.  And within minutes of me posting my post, the hubby decided he wanted to clear out the garage.  I discovered that the best way to get a hubby to clear out the garage is for him to get a new car!  I’ve been wanting to clear the garage for months to continue my decluttering frenzy. The hubby wasn’t in the mood to do anything in the garage until today!

If you remember from previous posts – here’s what my garage looked like before:

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Here’s what it looks like now:

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The hubby swears that we didn’t get rid of anything and all we did was move things around.  Especially reducing empty boxes from the move.  I think we got rid of some stuff and found some things.  We brought stuff into the house that we hadn’t before just because we didn’t know they were out there.  I found my bread maker and a roasting pan.  We brought in a lamp that we didn’t know where to put before now.  But the best thing is that all my scrapbooking supplies and all my craft boxes that I found were moved to my office.  So, this morning when I did task 2 of the 2015 countdown, I took my sewing closet apart to pull out all the UFOs.  Then I put them all back nice and neat.  It was organized and clean.  Now my office has all the craft boxes from the garage in it.

I forgot to take a picture of my sewing space before I added all the craft boxes so you’ll have to just imagine the clean floor.  Here it is now:

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It’s a mess.  I basically blocked off my sewing machine and in order for me to get to it, I’ll need to tackle some of those bags and bins. But, I’m excited that now I can go through all of that stuff and remove the things that I will not use anymore and find homes for the things I will use.  The hubby even mentioned that I really need to get back to scrapbooking since the last complete album we have is from 2005.  😀

After we cleared out the garage, I couldn’t reach my sewing machine so I ended up quilting Tell It To The Stars like I originally set out to do in the first place. 🙂

~Happy decluttering, happy quilting!  Happy New Years!

~Melanie

Living Simply Edition #15

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I haven’t done a living simply edition for awhile.  The Thanksgiving holiday crept in and now the Christmas holidays are creeping in and we’re just busy.  I am continuing to clear out my purse each evening and about once a week I go through the bottom right desk drawer that tends to accumulate bills, paper that need to be gone through and probably filed. By going through my purse and cleaning up the top of my desk each evening I get rid of a lot of paper right off the bat.  But usually there are a handful of items that I have to do something with and simply don’t have the time to do at that moment or maybe I just don’t know what to do with it.  They are either a bill that will need to get paid, or something that I need to enter into my accounting system, or something that I need to file away.  So, it’s these regular habits that I’m developing that help clear out the mess that usually bothers my daily life and my mind.  Over the last few weeks, even though I haven posted anything, I’ve slowly gone through all the boxes in my closet that I considered my “paper” boxes.  And they’re no longer in the closet.  They were either put in a file or shredded.  The only boxes that are left in the closet (other than my fabric bins) are the stuff I’ve been keeping to put in my scrapbooks.  They’re memorable stuff and I’m not ready to go through those yet.  I have 2 boxes that encompass parts of 2012 – 2015.  I need to sort through them into a system where I can put things away and when I start scrapbooking again, I can easily have everything somewhat organized.  They are all mixed up.  The worse thing is that I’ve got more boxes in the garage and I don’t know how to organize it yet.  I’m kind of at a standstill.  I’ve been trying to work around it.

The next thing I’m going to tackle is my linen closet.  Can you believe I probably have 50 towels stuffed there?  I also have a bunch of pillowcases with no matching beddings and my beddings are all mixed up.  I’d love to have all the coordinated beddings and pillowcases together and somehow tell which ones are queens, fulls, and twins.  Although, it’s pretty easy to tell which ones are twins.  I have a second linen closet in the laundry room so I need to combine the two sets of stuff and get rid of the things that I haven’t used in a long time.  That’s next on my list of things to declutter.  🙂

btw, I haven’t forgotten that I still need to declutter my books.  Right now, the bookshelf is blocked by my quilt frame so I do not have easy access to clear through those shelves.  I’ll do those at some point one day.  I’m just not ready to do it now. 🙂

Have a great day everyone!

~Melanie

 

 

 

~Melanie